August 18 – The Day My Life Changed Forever

It has been quite a while since I have written on this blog and thought today was a good day to write about how August 18, 2017 changed my life forever. Although you can read the full story here in the post titled, Brews, a beard, and a beauty: A Catholic Love Story, today is the day that I met my wife.

After being talked into going to Catholic Beer Club by a friend and driving reluctantly across Phoenix Metro from Gilbert, I never would have imagined that I would meet the woman that I now call my wife and the mother of my children. There are times that I still can’t fathom the idea of how it all happened, but one thing is certain, it was God’s will and I imagine that my Dad also helped a bit too. He passed away April of 2015 and my Mom still says that I met my wife because my father interceded on my behalf. Even though I believe that my Dad sees us in different way, it is still hard for me to know that he will never meet the love of my life and my children.

If you have never read the story above, I would read that before continuing on.

My wife and I are now living in Bismarck, ND and we have two boys, both under the age of two. I am working at the University of Mary in what I would call a complete career change. After working for the Catholic Church in a variety of parishes and schools, I am now the Director of Mission and Hospitality for Dining Services. I essentially oversee the hospitality and mission of our dining options on campus, serve as an Ambassador to the students when it comes to dining, and many other aspects that correlate around dining and working with UMary Dining Services. Every day is different although most days follow a common theme.

If you are a new follower to my blog and website, you are probably unaware of the story on how I lost my job at a Catholic parish in Gilbert, endured months of unemployment and found myself, with my family, living and working in the Upper Midwest – a region of the country that wasn’t even on my radar four years ago. To read this full story, I would encourage you to read my post titled, The Flight into the Dakotas

Since moving to the Upper Midwest, we have done all that we can to embrace the harsh winters months, although this year wasn’t as cold as some. I have even been ice fishing twice already – the first time was the day it was -30 below zero without the wind chill (yes, you read that correctly!). I am looking forward to Pheasant Season and Deer Season. We are super excited for actual Fall with the trees changing colors and all. I have been open water fishing once this summer on my brother-in-law’s boat, and even played a round of golf, a sport I didn’t think was played here until I moved here. Ha!

Please pray for my family and I as we continue to learn more about the Upper Midwest (although my wife is from South Dakota) and learn to embrace our new life here. Owning a home here is much different than owning a home in Arizona. The Blessed Mother played an important role in our dating, engagement, and still does in our marriage. Ask her to intercede for us and for all families. Thank you.

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  1. Great to hear from you, Tom.
    Keeping you and your family in prayer. Lorraine and I are doing great. I’m Grand Knight of the Father Louis A Sigman Council at Saint Juan Diego. Please pray that the Holy Spirit fills with wisdom in this role.
    Your brother in Christ.
    Mike Rimbey

    • Tom, I learned so much from you coming into the church. Please keep teaching and writing. Your devotion to Our Lady left a deep impression on me and remains as my own devotion grows. To this day your teachings still come to mind at various times — thank you for sharing your knowledge and love for our faith.

  2. Tom, I’m cleaning up my computer and found a bookmark to an article here from 2015, and I guess I had not been back since. I cannot begin to imagine the parish politics that took away your job at a rapidly growing parish in Gilbert. I am sorry to read about your job struggles. I seem to recall that you had teaching experience, and Valley schools are screaming for teachers, but perhaps you didn’t want to return to that. Your new job may or may not be something to make a career of, but since it is at a university I urge you to take more classes and perhaps earn another degree to improve your future prospects.

    I also read the article about how you met your wife. I never heard mention of “Catholic Beer Club” and the web page for its Phoenix branch is broken so perhaps it is defunct now. I congratulate you for finding a single Catholic woman, which I’ve never been able to do.

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