In a matter of hours, the body of Fr. Benedict Groeschel, C.F.R. will be laid to rest here on earth following the Funeral Mass at the Cathedral-Basilica of the Sacred Heart in Newark, New Jersey. When I heard that Fr. Groeschel passed away last Friday, I quickly said a prayer for the repose of his soul and also remembered the forty-five minutes I spent with him in a car from Steubenville, Ohio to the Pittsburgh Airport.
In the Summer of 2009, as a graduate student in Theology at Franciscan University of Steubenville, I worked as a driver for the transportation division for the Franciscan Summer Conferences. As a driver in transportation, one of the perks was picking up and dropping off speakers at the Pittsburgh Airport. Out of all the people I drove that summer, which included Steve Ray and David Currie, when I was asked to take Fr. Benedict Groeschel to the airport by my supervisor, Alex Hart, I nearly jumped out of my skin with excitement and joy. Being that I was one of the older drivers, she knew that she could trust me to be at his hotel at 5:00am to pick him up.
Within hours, my friends found out that I was taking Father to the airport, either by me telling them or others telling them. At once I started to receive rosaries, medals, scapulars, holy water, and just about every other sacramental you can think of for Fr. Groeschel to bless on our ride to the airport. By the time I arrived at his hotel at 5:00am, I had three medium size zip-lock bags full of sacramentals, plus the book I bought, Praying in the Presence of Our Lord – Prayers for Eucharistic Adoration by Fr. Groeschel.
I barely slept that night, woke up around 4:00am, and arrived at the hotel at 4:30am for the 5:00am pickup. It was a humid, rainy, very early summer morning in Steubenville. My heart was pounding fast…I was so nervous! Then all of a sudden, walking with a cane and with the assistance of a young CFR who traveled with him, Fr. Groeschel walked into the lobby. I introduced myself and told him I was taking him to the airport. He shook my hand with his left since he did not use his right hand.
With the assistance of the young CFR, we got him into the front passenger seat and put his bags in the trunk. The first question he asked me was if I had a wife after I said no, he replied, “Good. Neither do I.” We laughed and I realized my anxiety was gone. Noticing the bags of sacramentals on the dash, he blessed them and signed his book for me (see picture below).
After saying a short prayer for our drive to the airport, Fr. Groeschel said to me, “Where are you from?” I replied, “Phoenix, Arizona.” He said, “not with that accent!” After the three of us laughed, I then said, “I am originally from New Jersey.” So he said, “where in New Jersey” and my response was Bergen County. He then nudged my right arm with his left and said, “come on?!…where in Bergen County.” I then said I was born in Newark, where my parents were from, but that I lived for nine years in the town of Wood-Ridge. He then nudged my right arm, a little harder this time, and said, “come on?!… I lived in Woodridge as a baby for a short time.”
We were both in complete shock at this point. I remember him saying that he had never met anyone on his travels before that was from Woodridge, N.J. We also learned that the church he was baptized in, Our Lady of the Assumption, was the same church I received my First Holy Communion (he nudged my arm the hardest after learning this information).
As we continued our drive on U.S. 22, he asked me many questions about being a graduate student in Theology at Franciscan. I shared my thoughts and how I came to Franciscan after teaching high school theology for four years in Phoenix. Eventually, the conversation ended up on the Early Church Fathers and how important they are in the life of the Catholic Church. I remember thinking to myself in the car, “I AM TALKING TO FR. BENEDICT GROESCHEL ABOUT THE CHURCH FATHERS!!!” When I applied for the driver position in May, it never came to me that I would find myself in this car driving at this point in time.
As quickly as the drive began to the airport, it was quickly over. Once I stopped the car, the young CFR shook my hand, said thank you, and told Fr. Groeschel that he would get his bags out of the trunk. Fr. Groeschel then shook my hand and asked if he could pray for me. I said yes and he quickly recited a short prayer, blessed me, and said, “I will talk to the Blessed Mother about you today.” I thought to myself at that very moment, he probably actually has conversations with her.
As the young CFR came over to the car with a wheelchair and just as Father was about to exit the car, he turned around one last time and said to me, “You will do great things for the Church very soon.” I think I said thank you but who knows! I was truly at a loss for words. It was one of those experiences that just sticks with you. Every time his name has been mentioned around me since that day, I tell this story.
So on this day, October 10, 2014, let us pray for the soul of Fr. Benedict Groeschel, C.F.R., and that he, like St. Therese of Lisieux, will do more work for us from Heaven than he did for us here on Earth.
Wow! That is awesome. He was a wonderful wise man. Bless his soul. He will be missed.
This is beautiful!
What a wonderful experience! You are blessed!
So have you been discerning about your vocation to the priesthood yet?
Already discerned it. Not my vocation.
That was a fantastic account! You were lucky to have met a Saint (and to have such a good memory .. though, then again, you did meet an unforgettable man after all). I’m sure that he’ll continue praying for you and talking about you with the Blessed Virgin 🙂
Joni, the surest way to find God’s will for one’s life, according to the Saints, is by getting a Spiritual Director (… and, Tom, given your encounter, maybe asking one of the Priests of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal to be your Spiritual Director would be appropriate! … That is, if you do not already have one)
Keep up the good work; you are inspiring others!
We can all strive to towards such holiness. I will pray for his soul as well. Thank you for sharing.
I can’t believe you hadn’t told me about that before! That’s incredible Tom! And it is true, you are doing great things in the Church. The parish community you serve is blessed to have you there, and I know you feel blessed to be part of the community as well.
What an awesome experience! Thank you for sharing your story. You are blessed! Imagine, he talked to Our Blessed Mother about you. How wonderful!
That’s a wonderful story, Fr. Benedict was my uncle, my fathers older brother, and that story totally sounded like him… Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for sharing your experience, Tom. May you be abundantly blessed in your discerned vocation. How blessed so many have been to have known Fr Benedict over the course of our lives. May he rest in peace.
I was at that conference at Franciscan University. When Fr. Groeschel walked into the conference, he got a standing ovation. It was about a year since he had been injured.
Hey, I grew up in Woodbridge Township! Imagine how shocked I was to see you mention Woodbridge in a blog!
That’s great, Father! I only lived there for a short time.
While I never met Fr. in person, I felt that I knew him as watching him each Sunday evening here in California on, “Sunday Night Prime”. Also, viewing video’s online he was a great blessing and inspiration. Watched his funeral on the lap top and Fr. Apostoli gave a beautiful euology mixed with Fr. Groeschel’s usual humor. Even though he is gone from us, and yet we know that he will be praying for us from Heaven. Thank you Fr. Benedict for the practice of the love and care after our Father Francis. Pax et Bonum
Thanks a lot for sharing. It’s not every day you get to give a ride to such a holy man, and one who has done so much for the New Evangelization in our culture.
I took my 87 year-old mother to that conference in Stuebeville in 2009. Father Groeschel was graciously signing books for a short period of time while at the conference, I convinced my mom that it would special if she (and I as well) approached him for his signature. Not being used to being “forward”, as she would say, she was really excited as our turn came. After he signed her book, she asked she could touch him. Before he could reply, she reached out and gently touched his arm, after which he fostered a big grin and shook his head. It was a memory she still talks about, now in her 92nd year of life. Father Benedict, Resquiscat in Pace.
Great story! In my mind, I can hear Father Groeschel saying those things to you in his distinctive voice. What a blessing your meeting was.
By the way, as a Jersey guy I feel compelled to point out that the town in Bergen County has a unique spelling of Wood-Ridge, not to be confused with Fr. Toborowsky’s Woodbridge in Middlesex County
Thanks Ron! I will make the correction. I have only been back to that town once or twice in 30 plus years.
Wonderful story!! What a blessing!
Loved reading this. Thank you for sharing your story! Fr Benedict = very holy AND very down to earth. You were most fortunate. I had the privilege of meeting him very briefly several years ago and also remember the encounter in detail. St Therese and Fr Benedict, pray for us!
How awesome I prayed to him yesterday and Father Casey Solanus for my son,
Father Groeschel knew Father Solanus if that man isn’t in Heaven for sure our prayers will
give him a microsecond in Purgatory. CS Lewis said that once you meet God you are going to
ask for a time in Purgatory to me its like wiping your feet on the doormat before you enter Heaven.